‘Anger and Shame feed each other.’
Another aspect of anger is that it is the fuel to shame.
Have you ever sat in your car outside your own home, telling yourself, "be calm, don't lose it tonight," quietly wanting a different outcome to yesterday, and to the day before that?
You walk through the door, and in no time at all, the anger comes out. Later on you sit there confused, asking yourself, "Why did I react like that? That is not who I want to be."
In my book I call it 'The Werewolf Within.'
It was never really about what happened at the door. Underneath the aspect of anger was shame, and a pile of other emotions. The shame was the fuel, and the werewolf delivered the anger.
Anger is just one facet of a diamond, that all of us are multifaceted. Turn it to the light and something softer is almost always hiding behind it.
As the saying goes, "You cannot see your reflection in boiling water." When the water calms, what might your anger be protecting you.?
'No one frames a house on their own. The same is true for our lives.'
'No one frames a house on their own. The same is true for our lives.'
Not because it's heavy or hard to do. Because doing it alone was never the smart way.
Same goes for what you're carrying in your head. Reaching for a hand isn't weakness. It's just the smart way to build.
You call in a sparky when it's not your trade. Your mind is no different. Sometimes you call in someone who knows that job.
You were never meant to do it all solo.
It’s Mindful - Not Mind-Full
It's mindful, not mind-full.
Two words a hyphen apart, and worlds apart to live in. A mind that's full is crammed, racing, reacting to everything. A mind that's mindful is simply here — present, aware, awake to this moment.
Most of us live mind-full and call it normal. Mindful is a choice, and it's always available.
Right now, which one are you?
‘You're not made of steel. You just get treated like you are — mostly by yourself.’
You're not made of steel. You just get treated like you are — mostly by yourself.
You'd never run a machine flat out with no maintenance and expect it to last. Somehow that's exactly what we ask of ourselves.
Easing off isn't going soft. It's how you keep standing.
’You service the ute. You maintain the tools. When did you last service the one running them?’
You service the ute. You maintain the tools. When did you last service the bloke running them?
We keep everything else running — the gear, the truck, the job. But the one person we never book in for a service is ourselves.
You're not made of steel. You just get treated like you are — mostly by yourself.